Q&A SERIES As your carer is also your boyfriend, is it diff..

Q&A SERIES As your carer is also your boyfriend, is it difficult distinguishing between tasks that involve nudity and sexual moments? I really love this question! And I think there are two sides of it, my side and his side. I’m not sure which side he was referring to so I’m going to answer both. From my side the issue is whether sexual moments are lessened by the fact that he has to help me in vulnerable, and sometimes kind of gross, situations. When we were first together we would often shower together, for example. But now if I wish to stand up in the shower he has to hold me in place. So something that used to be sexual has now become functional. I do struggle with the idea that he still finds me attractive. Because he has seen me at my most vulnerable and in situations that I would never in a million years have wanted him to see me. From his perspective he sees this question as being quite different. He sees it as a question of how he separates the sexual desires he would feel seeing me naked with moments where he needs to be my carer. He also talked to me about the shower but from this very different perspective. He said it’s very hard to just stand there holding me in place when we take a shower because I am naked and he just wants to touch me all over. He says for him, it’s about accepting my needs in those moments are greater than his sexual needs and he has to just ignore them in order to help me. So the reason I love this question was because it led to a conversation with my boyfriend that actually alleviated a great deal of the worries I have over our relationship and helped to reassure me that he still finds me attractive and desirable. Remember you can ask me literally anything, just send me a message. If you don’t want me to share the question on my main feed just let me know and I will happily answer in private.